I work with people who want the deepest experience of being alive, understand something has to change — and know the real work begins within.
How I relate to myself as I go through the issue is the issue.
Most of us come to coaching focused on a problem: a life change, a decision, a fear, a loss, uncertainty. But the deeper work — and the next step — often begins when we look at the old misunderstandings, stories, beliefs we hold about ourselves that have been quietly running the show.
Coaching With Paul
In our sessions, we slow things down enough to see what is actually happening — not just in the situation, but in the way you are relating to yourself as you move through it.
From there, we design next steps that are compassionate, practical, and testable in real life. Success means the work begins to show up in how you think and feel, how you choose, speak, and respond to life’s challenges.
What I Help With
Life Transitions
When things change, and the future feels uncertain, we work with fear, those future events appearing real and the resistance, grief, and possibility that come with crossing from one chapter into the next.
Self-Doubt & Inner Criticism
Shining light on the places where fear, shame, or old beliefs keep narrowing your choices — and meeting those wounds with honesty, compassion, and self-forgiveness.
Relationships
Looking at the patterns, reactions, and unspoken needs that shape how you connect, protect yourself, and take responsibility.
Creativity & Purpose
Honoring your process, voice, and expression — the qualities that are uniquely yours — while listening to the younger, wiser, and more creative parts of you.
Grief, Loss & Uncertainty
Accepting what cannot be controlled with more honesty, courage, compassion. Taking action when doing so is the loving choice, even when we don’t know how it’s going to turn out.
Spiritual Growth Without Pretending
For spiritual people who want depth, honesty, and compassion without using spiritual ideas to avoid what needs to be faced, or understood – what yearns to be forgiven and loved.
Finding Serenity Course
If the ideas on this page speak to you, Finding Serenity: A 10-Part Journey into the Heart of Change, Acceptance, Courage, and Wisdom offers another path into the work.
This course explores how to quiet the survival brain — the part of us that resists change — and begin moving from judgment toward acceptance, self-forgiveness, courage, vulnerability, authenticity, and the wisdom of the heart.
Taking the course requires an Insight Timer MemberPlus subscription.